Sexual assault self-protection need not focus on learning to be violent. In her talk, Dr. Mellisa Holtzman offers specific ways to respond to aggressors while considering your own goals.
Mellisa Holtzman is an professor of sociology at Ball State University. Her research interests are centered on sex, gender, and sexual assault prevention. Her published work includes articles in Journal of Interpersonal Violence, Perspectives on Sexual and Reproductive Health, Journal of Applied Social Sciences, and Law and Social Inquiry. Mellisa is the co-creator, co-director, and lead instructor for Elemental.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx
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Life is a precious gift. Don’t waste it being unhappy, dissatisfied, or anything else you can be
Life is good. Life is sooo good. Have a wonderful life. Happy Saturday
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Our great meal before we left from the Huai Mae Khamin Waterfall in Kanchanaburi province. So delicious.s.s ^___^
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cleanliness is next to godliness
"Being clean is a sign of spiritual purity or goodness, as in Don’t forget to wash your ears–cleanliness is next to godliness. This phrase was first recorded in a sermon by John Wesley in 1778, but the idea is ancient, found in Babylonian and Hebrew religious tracts. It is still invoked, often as an admonition to wash or clean up."
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The doctory says I am ready. (For the last time)
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And here we are again 5 months after this. My doctor said the same thing but this time he meant everything is done, I am ok, everything ok. My face is back to normal, my life is back to normal (?). I’ve waited for this moment since two long and strange years. The iron that covers my teeth will be gone soon. The moment of the operation is far far away. I am here. My face too.
…and after he said I was ready, I ran and jumped all my way to the exit of that damn hospital. and after he said I was ready, just as a gift, the radio started to play my favourite songs. And I sang, in the traffic jam, like I was a child, smiling, laughing and talking to myself. And when a man looked at me from his car and smiled back, I knew I was ready. For the last and first time.
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June 2nd, 2011 – Copenhagen, Denmark
Outside the Royal Theatre there is a vast area which appears to be used to construct sets for forthcoming productions – at least I assume what these futuristic cityscapes are. These in of themselves would be extraordinary enough backdrops for street photographs, whatever the surrounding landscape, but when the are happens to back on to the docks, as is the case here – yes, the water and the yacht in the background are absolutely real, the effect is beyond surreal. I couldn’t help thinking of the Peter Sellers’ movie Being There – only it’s as if it was being filmed on a set co-designed by Magritte and Fritz Lang.
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I Was Assaulted By This Man Who Identified Himself as a Police Officer and Refused to Provide Me Identification, Photography is Not a Crime
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So I know that I write a lot about being harassed for my photography on the streets of San Francisco and for some this story may be getting old. I shoot every day though and at least once or twice a month have a run in with a security guard or authority figure of some sort somewhere. Typically I can resolve these episodes on my own amicably with the individual involved, but sometimes things go over the line. In the past year I’ve blogged about three of these incidents that crossed the line. One was when a security guard at One Bush was following me around the sidewalk trying to put his hand in front of my camera and not allowing me to shoot the building. Another was when the Sheriff’s Department detained me and ran what I consider an illegal background check on me merely for shooting near the train tracks in Oakland. Another was when a particular nasty altercation took place between me and a security guard who came out of 45 Fremont middle finger a’blazin’ to insist that I not shoot that building.
But today’s episode was the worst I’ve encountered so far. Ironically enough, it occurred once again outside of 45 Fremont Street. This was even after I spoke with a PR person from the Shorenstein owned property who apologized to me for my treatment and assured me that I would find a more tolerant atmosphere at that property in the future.
Today, aqui-ali (another local Flickr photographer), helveticaneue (in from out of town) and I went out to do a bit of shooting. Since Aqui had a meeting down on 2nd Street later this afternoon we decided to head that way and shoot the Transbay Terminal. 45 Fremont was in our path and we were shooting some photos of it as we were walking by. It was then that the security guard there told us that we could not shoot the building. When I explained that we were in a public area and had a right to shoot the building he insisted and called another security guard over on his radio who also tried to get us to stop taking pictures of the building. I still refused as it is my right to shoot buildings in San Francisco from a public area.
It was at this point that things went from bad to worse. At this point an individual came over who identified himself as a police officer and told us to get out of the plaza, off the sidewalk and to physically stand on the asphalt in the street where the cars were driving by. When I tried to object this individual (who was significantly larger than me) assaulted me and forcibly grabbed my arm quite hard and pulled me towards the street. When I freed myself from his grip I told him that I was going to take his photograph. He told me that I could not take his photograph and that if I did that I could "watch what would happen to my camera."
I took his photograph anyways and that is him up there at the top of the story. Once he had us physically on the asphalt in the traffic off the sidewalk I once again asked him for his identification and asked to see his badge. He refused to provide me his identification and refused to show me his badge. It is my understanding that when someone identifies themselves as a police officer that I have a right to see their identification proving this fact. This prevents anyone from falsely impersonating police officers and abusing a false authority. I asked him at least five times to see his badge and he refused. He continued to confer with the security guards at the building though.
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When I first contacted a tree service in Queens County, NY, it was to get various prices on tree services that they do. I knew that I needed to have a few trees pruned, and I thought that there was one that might need to come down completely. I was concerned that it was going to die because one side of it had something growing on it that I had never seen before. I had heard that diseases can easily travel from one tree to another in the same area, and I wanted to have this checked out as soon as possible.
The company I called was able to send one of their tree technicians out to look at the work that needed done on my trees. I really appreciated this because it included a free estimate on any work that they deemed would be necessary. I wasn’t too concerned about the price, but I still did not want to pay a small fortune to have the trees taken care of properly. Continue reading
We have a patio that is paved with brick that is set in mortar. The whole area slopes slightly toward the center where there is a drain. Last winter, after a snowfall that began to melt, the patio filled with water and froze. The drain was clogged. We called a place that does drain cleaning in Rockland County NY to come out and open it up. After they busted trough the thick ice to get to it, they used a powered snake to open the drain. It was frozen partway down, then it was just water below the frost line. It was clogged several feet in with leaves and dirt.
Last summer we did some landscaping, and there was some silt runoff during a couple of heavy rainstorms. That combined with some leaf debris from the fall season was all it took to finish clogging up the drain. The melting snow would just not drain. They opened the drain and all of the melted ice flowed smoothly down the drain when the warm spell hit in the spring. That ice was on the patio for about three weeks before it was fully melted. Continue reading
We had a giant old mirror in an oak frame that had some dings but was otherwise in good shape. It was used behind the counter at a soda shop many years ago. Before that, we think it was used at a pharmacy. The silver coating was damaged due to storage in a moist environment. However, the glass had no chips, cracks or scrapes. We looked it over from edge to edge after we got it out of the frame. We had the glass taken to a shop that does custom glass in Somerset County, NJ for resilvering. We had the frame sent to a craftsman that works with antique furniture to restore it to like new condition.
The redone mirror was getting readied to be installed in our fruit and juice bar we have in our game and media room in our house. We practice healthy things at our house, and we encourage our friends, relatives and neighbors to also. Continue reading
My parents always did things in a natural way. They grew their own vegetables, had a yard full of trees that were full of fruit, did their own canning and made their own house cleaning products. I loved this old way of life, and I followed it when I was out on my own as an adult. So, when I had an insect infestation in my home recently, I ended up needing an exterminator in NYC for help, even though I tried to fix the problem on my own.
Ants were a common problem in the building where I lived. I typically did not contact the man who owns the building whenever I had a problem with anything because I knew how to fix issues on my own. But this time, I could not combat the ants that I kept finding in my place. Continue reading
This is an important question for me because I have been offered a chance to relocate to this little town in the area to the South of the Dallas Fort Worth area. My company has a subsidiary that they bought down there and it is in a bit of a transition. In essence a bunch of the people in the middle management bailed on the company to join a competing firm. So this is the bottom line, I would get a promotion and there would be the chance to move up. I went to visit this site today to try to figure out some of the details of living down there. I am thinking about some realistic things. I have a girlfriend here and although this is not something I brag about, she sort of lets me live in her place more or less free of charge. Continue reading
As I’ve grown older over the years I have begun to realize how incredibly important it is for me to begin investing. When I was younger my parents never did anything to encourage saving money or doing anything with investing my income. In my later teens and early 20’s, I found myself struggling with saving money and found myself wondering how exactly I was going to go about saving for my retirement. That’s how I came upon pairs trading after a friend of mine introduced me to the idea of trading in order to earn the kind of money that I would need to retire.
Part of me really dislikes the idea of saving money just to retire. It’s like having a single goal in life and that goal is to wait until I’m old enough to really enjoy the money. Continue reading
I have never really had to think about this, but in Texas you get to choose which company you want to hook up the power for you. You can not get all of them in every area, but you can choose from a dozen or so power companies in various parts of Texas. If you go to http://choosetexaspower.org and put your zip code in the little box they will tell you which power companies you can pick from. It is usually three or four different companies, but in some areas I guess it might be more. There is TXU Energy, StarTex Power, Champion Energy Services, Reliant Energy, Bounce Energy, Just Energy, Direct energy, First Choice, Ambit, Cirro and New Leaf. Continue reading
I was not really expecting to play middle linebacker this year, although I was thinking that they might move me there next year. We had a guy who was probably going to be all conference who was slated to play in the middle linebacker, but his Dad got a new job and so he is going to be playing football in South Carolina this year. I have started to read about the top Shakeology reviews and trying to figure out how is the best way for me to add some bulk. Of course my plan was to be the strong safety this year. Continue reading
We did not want to invest in a house at this point in our life together as husband and wife. However, we did look for luxury apartments in Lexington KY to lease. We really liked what we saw. As soon as we walked into the apartment that was shown to us, we were really liking the vaulted ceilings. It had a loft feel to it that is part industrial and part home. If you have ever longed for a loft place, you know what I mean.
Loft spaces are huge with open floor designs and high ceilings. These luxury apartments in Lexington KY remind me of the lofts I have seen in some major cities. Continue reading
My kids absolutely love Game Stop, and I can't really blame them. They are able to get some great deals there, plus they are able to sell some of their older games or consoles that they have lost interest in. When they give me their Christmas lists each year, there is always a very healthy section for Game Stop gear. They really don't ask for a lot, so I try to get them what they want. That is going to be a lot easier thanks to doing a search for Black Friday online deals 2015. Check This Link
My friend is the one who told me about a site that has a lot of Black Friday deals on it. I was pretty excited as soon as I found the one she was talking about because Game Stop is one of the more popular stores that has a lot of great Black Friday deals on it. I always shop on Black Friday because I am able to get the kids more of the things that are on their lists because of the savings. When I found the site, I was able to sign myself up for email notifications.
That meant that I was able to put my email address in, and as soon as a store puts up their Black Friday ad, I am going to get a notice in my email about it. That is not the only thing that got me excited about this site though. They also have coupons too! I was already looking forward to some sale items, but knowing I can save even more because of the coupons on this site is enough to make anyone giddy with excitement. I have a feeling I am going to be able to get the kids everything on their Game Stop Christmas list this year!
When my second son was born, I was much better prepared all the way around. The one thing I was looking forward to the most was the new breast pump that I had purchased from Medela. I was really worried about this aspect since I don't have the luxury of staying home with my boys. With my first son, I had used a name brand pump, but it was extremely disappointing in so many ways. A good friend told me to look here at the Medela site, and that is where I found the pump that I wish I had the first time around. Check This Link
The main problem with the first pump was it did not store the milk in a way that it was good for very long. I ended up getting a second pump but didn't have any better luck with it. When she told me that I would definitely notice a change with this breast pump, I was so happy to find out she was right. I was amazed because it does everything that every single breast pump should do. It is so quiet too, which was another big surprise for me.
It also worked to where I was able to pump the milk much faster than either of the other pumps I had tried before. When my son was able to move on from milk, I was actually surprised that the breast pump was still in such great condition, considering I had to buy two to last the same amount of time for my first son. The customer service they provide is second to none as well. I can see why my friend suggested this pump, and I have suggested it to a few friends of mine as well. When you find the best, especially with a breast pump, it is definitely news to share with others.
I need to get a new laptop because my laptop has been having some serious issues recently and it is really starting to worry me. It is overheating and crashing on me, and sometimes it will not turn back on for over an hour. I am worried that one of these times it will not turn back on at all and I will lose all of my data and stuff. That would be pretty awful, and I am going to try to look for Cyber Monday laptops so that I can start planning what I want to get for my next laptop.
It is pretty important that I take advantage of Cyber Monday sales to get a new laptop, because I want to get a nice laptop, but at the same time, I do not really want to spend that much money on one. It is a bit of a conundrum, but one that I hope to be able to wade through. I am not sure what type of laptop I want to get. I definitely do not want to get the same type that I have right now.
It is a bit underwhelming from a performance perspective, and plus it has this issue with overheating. I have no idea why it has been overheating, but it is very frustrating to me and I have already lost quite a few file saves because of the issue. I am just glad that it has kept working so far. I used some compressed air to try to clean out the fan and such. I don't know if it helped though and it is kind of hard to tell. It has overheated once since I did that, but it has not been a long time since I did it. I just need a new laptop really. Check This Link
I don't know how it happened, and I can't really imagine how it could happen. But I am ashamed to admit that my brother is suffering from a crystal meth addiction. It is probably one of the hardest drugs I can think of, and in my opinion, it is worse than crack. I thought he was smarter than this and to make things worse, it is my youngest brother that has this problem. I am going to check him into crystal meth rehab and I told him that he could come and live with me for awhile after he was completely clean. So hopefully that will motivate him a bit. I really don't know what the appeal to this drug is, but I guess a large part of the appeal just lies in the fact that it is a super addictive drug.
I am pretty sure that I tried it by accident one time, a long time ago. It was at a concert, and I did not bring any marijuana with me. Back at the time, I used to smoke a lot, and I have long kicked that habit. But back when this concert happened, I was still in my teenage years. Anyway, I asked some random guy to pass me the joint he was smoking. I took a hit, and immediately noticed that something was up with it.
It was not normal at all, and to the best I can tell, crystal meth had been laced in with the cannabis inside the joint. I didn't sleep that night, and I felt like I was having heart palpitations. It was thoroughly unpleasant and I was really confused why someone would choose to do something like that. I just really hope and pray for my brother, and I hope he will be able to get better. Check This Link
I watched a show about those people who use coupons at a store to the most extreme measure that they can. What I saw was that they buy a lot of stuff we would not even consider buying. We use coupons a little more wisely. We clip the ones for products we use all of the time, and we clip a few for items we would like to try but don't want to pay full retail for. We get them from the newspaper, weekly store ads that come in the mail and we use free printable coupons for groceries that we get online. Check This Link
We go shopping for groceries about once a week. My wife and I make a list and gather up coupons and sales ads. One local store will match the prices of competitors. We do most of our shopping there rather than driving around. Then we use the coupons at the end of the order. The total before the coupons makes me nervous practically every single time. Then it is cut by at least a third, more often in half, most of the time. The total in savings for buying items when they are on sale and using coupons equals our car payment every month at least. If we did not use the coupons and shop diligently, we would have to earn more money to make up the difference.
I remember a guy muttering to the person with him behind us in line once. He was complaining about people wasting time using coupons. I wanted so bad to say something to him, but I held my peace. He should consider himself privileged to be able to just throw money away. We work hard for every penny we earn. If there is a way to not have to spend any of it wastefully, we will certainly take advantage of those ways. It helps us to do more with less money and have more without spending more.
I read a news article earlier today that was about the number of energy companies in Texas. It was pretty interesting, and to be honest, I had no idea that there were just so many energy providers in the state. I think that it is kind of cool though, because it gives the consumer choices, and that is the basis of capitalism, Check This Link
I want to get cheap internet because I am paying too much for my internet right now and I have been struggling with my bills lately. I do not make as much money as I used to make, because I working less hours now. I am pretty sure that my boss is trying to get me to quit, but I don't know what else I would do, or where else I would turn for a job. It is not like there are just tons of jobs out there to be had. But rather, times are pretty tough, and so I am going to stick with this job for the time being, and then hope and pray that things will get better.
But for the mean time, I need to make arrangements to make sure that I do not run out of money trying to pay my bills each month. To that end, I have been looking into ways to reduce all of my utilities. I am going to cancel my television subscription, and try to move to a internet connection that costs lest per month than the one I am currently on. I am currently paying like 60 bucks a month for internet, and I would like to get it down to about 20 to 25 dollars. That would be ideal for me, and I don't think I could get a connection for less than that, which would actually be worth having. Going lower than that you're probably looking at some sort of dial-up connection from the stone ages, or well, at least from the nineties. I do not miss the days when I had to listen to annoying modem noises for a minute or 3 before I was able to get on the internet, it is kind of crazy how times have changed. Check This Link
I want to get a coupon for hosting, and when I am talkin gabout hosting, I mean hosting a website. I have an idea for a good website, that could eventually get me a lot of money. But it is going to be in some initial stages for some time. I am not sure how long it will take for me to develop it into my full concept. I am looking into site5 coupon to try to reduce the costs for me to have the site hosted.
I have finished reviewing some of the modern approaches to website design and they are quite a bit different from what I had to work with the last time I built website. When I was in high school, I actually had to teach my entire class how to do HTML, because the teacher for the class did not understand how it worked. It was a pretty messed up experience, but I guess that just happens sometimes, and I do not really know why schools don't make sure to put competent teachers in place.
I am going to hope that we will be able to get up a site and have it running within the next week or two. I am not sure how much free time I will have to put the website together. I know that I will have this weekend to work on it, but beyond that, I am not really sure, and that is why I am kind of concerned that it could take me longer than I want it to. I guess it wil lget done when I can get it done, and that is just how it will work out. I am going to see what type of coupon deals I can get for the hosting of it. Check This Link
I've been checking out Columbia apartments this last week but not in the traditional method that you might be familiar with! My friends are always asking me how I manage to find the sweet pads that I do. Generally, I move once a year as I don't like being pinned down in one place and I also enjoy having somewhere new to live. I think it keeps my mind alive if I am refreshing my environment every year. It's a nice change of pace and I tend to get bored of an apartment within that year's lease anyway! Check This Link
First, if you're trying to find a unique or cool apartment you almost always want to check out the historic or older districts in your town. If you're trying to save money in the process then I highly encourage you to check near any major campuses This is a great way to find something that's older, which is going to have a unique vibe to it as well as being able to find something cheap since they are catering to students. In one neighborhood I have been able to find four different apartments that all looked different inside and out.
One of them even had a Murphy bed! When I was a kid I always wanted a Murphy bed, I thought they were the coolest thing ever. Another one was a loft apartment that took up the entire third floor of a house that sat up on this huge hill - I was able to see the entire area that I lived from that view. Another one had a tree that they had used to build a deck around - it was like living in a tree house! This end of town has all the best and the neatest little apartments that you could ever want.
Started working on getting a new car just now. I figure that it is getting to the point where I am going to have to get rid of this car because it is going to start to break down on me more frequently in the future. That is how it works once a car has a certain number of miles on it of course. You get to the point where you have to get an online cash advance service to lend you a thousand bucks to get it fixed after the transmission goes out on you. Of course there is a limit to how much a car can do mechanically. If you take perfect care of it, then the parts still break down after a certain amount of wear and tear. This car has almost two hundred and twenty five thousand miles on the odometer. That is a whole lot of miles.
If it was a more valuable vehicle then you could think about how much it would cost to rebuild the engine, but this car is what you would call a beater if you had a newer vehicle to drive. In fact it is probably not worth a lot more as working car than it would be if I took it to a scrap yard and sold it as junk metal. In fact if you know what you are doing you might be able to get more for it like that. You take the catalytic converter off it and that is worth something just under a hundred dollars by itself. Then you take the radiator off and in this case the wheels are aluminum. The aluminum wheels can be sold by themselves for a bit of cash and so on. You strip off the valuable parts and they still give you a scap metal price on what is left. Check This Link