Life is a precious gift. Don’t waste it being unhappy, dissatisfied, or anything else you can be


Sexual assault self-protection need not focus on learning to be violent. In her talk, Dr. Mellisa Holtzman offers specific ways to respond to aggressors while considering your own goals.

Mellisa Holtzman is an professor of sociology at Ball State University. Her research interests are centered on sex, gender, and sexual assault prevention. Her published work includes articles in Journal of Interpersonal Violence, Perspectives on Sexual and Reproductive Health, Journal of Applied Social Sciences, and Law and Social Inquiry. Mellisa is the co-creator, co-director, and lead instructor for Elemental.

This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at




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  1. Life is a precious gift. Don’t waste it being unhappy, dissatisfied, or anything else you can be
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    Life is good. Life is sooo good. Have a wonderful life. Happy Saturday

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  3. Are You Hungry :-)?
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    Our great meal before we left from the Huai Mae Khamin Waterfall in Kanchanaburi province. So delicious.s.s ^___^

    I know I am making you hungry :-).

    Have a great weekend…Keep smiling, all my lovely friends ^___^

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  5. cleanliness is next to godliness
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    "Being clean is a sign of spiritual purity or goodness, as in Don’t forget to wash your ears–cleanliness is next to godliness. This phrase was first recorded in a sermon by John Wesley in 1778, but the idea is ancient, found in Babylonian and Hebrew religious tracts. It is still invoked, often as an admonition to wash or clean up."




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  9. The doctory says I am ready. (For the last time)
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    And here we are again 5 months after this. My doctor said the same thing but this time he meant everything is done, I am ok, everything ok. My face is back to normal, my life is back to normal (?). I’ve waited for this moment since two long and strange years. The iron that covers my teeth will be gone soon. The moment of the operation is far far away. I am here. My face too.

    …and after he said I was ready, I ran and jumped all my way to the exit of that damn hospital. and after he said I was ready, just as a gift, the radio started to play my favourite songs. And I sang, in the traffic jam, like I was a child, smiling, laughing and talking to myself. And when a man looked at me from his car and smiled back, I knew I was ready. For the last and first time.




  11. Being There
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    June 2nd, 2011 – Copenhagen, Denmark

    Outside the Royal Theatre there is a vast area which appears to be used to construct sets for forthcoming productions – at least I assume what these futuristic cityscapes are. These in of themselves would be extraordinary enough backdrops for street photographs, whatever the surrounding landscape, but when the are happens to back on to the docks, as is the case here – yes, the water and the yacht in the background are absolutely real, the effect is beyond surreal. I couldn’t help thinking of the Peter Sellers’ movie Being There – only it’s as if it was being filmed on a set co-designed by Magritte and Fritz Lang.

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  13. I Was Assaulted By This Man Who Identified Himself as a Police Officer and Refused to Provide Me Identification, Photography is Not a Crime
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    So I know that I write a lot about being harassed for my photography on the streets of San Francisco and for some this story may be getting old. I shoot every day though and at least once or twice a month have a run in with a security guard or authority figure of some sort somewhere. Typically I can resolve these episodes on my own amicably with the individual involved, but sometimes things go over the line. In the past year I’ve blogged about three of these incidents that crossed the line. One was when a security guard at One Bush was following me around the sidewalk trying to put his hand in front of my camera and not allowing me to shoot the building. Another was when the Sheriff’s Department detained me and ran what I consider an illegal background check on me merely for shooting near the train tracks in Oakland. Another was when a particular nasty altercation took place between me and a security guard who came out of 45 Fremont middle finger a’blazin’ to insist that I not shoot that building.

    But today’s episode was the worst I’ve encountered so far. Ironically enough, it occurred once again outside of 45 Fremont Street. This was even after I spoke with a PR person from the Shorenstein owned property who apologized to me for my treatment and assured me that I would find a more tolerant atmosphere at that property in the future.

    Today, aqui-ali (another local Flickr photographer), helveticaneue (in from out of town) and I went out to do a bit of shooting. Since Aqui had a meeting down on 2nd Street later this afternoon we decided to head that way and shoot the Transbay Terminal. 45 Fremont was in our path and we were shooting some photos of it as we were walking by. It was then that the security guard there told us that we could not shoot the building. When I explained that we were in a public area and had a right to shoot the building he insisted and called another security guard over on his radio who also tried to get us to stop taking pictures of the building. I still refused as it is my right to shoot buildings in San Francisco from a public area.

    It was at this point that things went from bad to worse. At this point an individual came over who identified himself as a police officer and told us to get out of the plaza, off the sidewalk and to physically stand on the asphalt in the street where the cars were driving by. When I tried to object this individual (who was significantly larger than me) assaulted me and forcibly grabbed my arm quite hard and pulled me towards the street. When I freed myself from his grip I told him that I was going to take his photograph. He told me that I could not take his photograph and that if I did that I could "watch what would happen to my camera."

    I took his photograph anyways and that is him up there at the top of the story. Once he had us physically on the asphalt in the traffic off the sidewalk I once again asked him for his identification and asked to see his badge. He refused to provide me his identification and refused to show me his badge. It is my understanding that when someone identifies themselves as a police officer that I have a right to see their identification proving this fact. This prevents anyone from falsely impersonating police officers and abusing a false authority. I asked him at least five times to see his badge and he refused. He continued to confer with the security guards at the building though.

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Sometimes You Need to Swallow Pride and Get Real Help


My parents always did things in a natural way. They grew their own vegetables, had a yard full of trees that were full of fruit, did their own canning and made their own house cleaning products. I loved this old way of life, and I followed it when I was out on my own as an adult. So, when I had an insect infestation in my home recently, I ended up needing an exterminator in NYC for help, even though I tried to fix the problem on my own.

Ants were a common problem in the building where I lived. I typically did not contact the man who owns the building whenever I had a problem with anything because I knew how to fix issues on my own. But this time, I could not combat the ants that I kept finding in my place. Continue reading

How Much Does It Cost to Live in Texas?


This is an important question for me because I have been offered a chance to relocate to this little town in the area to the South of the Dallas Fort Worth area. My company has a subsidiary that they bought down there and it is in a bit of a transition. In essence a bunch of the people in the middle management bailed on the company to join a competing firm. So this is the bottom line, I would get a promotion and there would be the chance to move up. I went to visit this site today to try to figure out some of the details of living down there. I am thinking about some realistic things. I have a girlfriend here and although this is not something I brag about, she sort of lets me live in her place more or less free of charge. Continue reading

News on Texas Energy Comapnies


I read a news article earlier today that was about the number of energy companies in Texas. It was pretty interesting, and to be honest, I had no idea that there were just so many energy providers in the state. I think that it is kind of cool though, because it gives the consumer choices, and that is the basis of capitalism, in my opinion. If you can’t choose your energy provider, then there is no incentive for them to give you top quality service. But if there is competition, then it is a completely different story.

I am about to make some food right now, because I have been neglecting to eat for a few hours right now. Continue reading

Saving Money for Retirement or for the Now?


As I’ve grown older over the years I have begun to realize how incredibly important it is for me to begin investing. When I was younger my parents never did anything to encourage saving money or doing anything with investing my income. In my later teens and early 20’s, I found myself struggling with saving money and found myself wondering how exactly I was going to go about saving for my retirement. That’s how I came upon pairs trading after a friend of mine introduced me to the idea of trading in order to earn the kind of money that I would need to retire.

Part of me really dislikes the idea of saving money just to retire. It’s like having a single goal in life and that goal is to wait until I’m old enough to really enjoy the money. Continue reading

How Do You Pick a Power Company


I have never really had to think about this, but in Texas you get to choose which company you want to hook up the power for you. You can not get all of them in every area, but you can choose from a dozen or so power companies in various parts of Texas. If you go to and put your zip code in the little box they will tell you which power companies you can pick from. It is usually three or four different companies, but in some areas I guess it might be more. There is TXU Energy, StarTex Power, Champion Energy Services, Reliant Energy, Bounce Energy, Just Energy, Direct energy, First Choice, Ambit, Cirro and New Leaf. Continue reading

Started to Get Bulked Up for the Season


I was not really expecting to play middle linebacker this year, although I was thinking that they might move me there next year. We had a guy who was probably going to be all conference who was slated to play in the middle linebacker, but his Dad got a new job and so he is going to be playing football in South Carolina this year. I have started to read about the top Shakeology reviews and trying to figure out how is the best way for me to add some bulk. Of course my plan was to be the strong safety this year. Continue reading

Rad Apartments in Historic Districts


I’ve been checking out Columbia apartments this last week but not in the traditional method that you might be familiar with! My friends are always asking me how I manage to find the sweet pads that I do. Generally, I move once a year as I don’t like being pinned down in one place and I also enjoy having somewhere new to live. I think it keeps my mind alive if I am refreshing my environment every year. It’s a nice change of pace and I tend to get bored of an apartment within that year’s lease anyway!

First, if you’re trying to find a unique or cool apartment you almost always want to check out the historic or older districts in your town. Continue reading

Started Working on Getting a New Car


Started working on getting a new car just now. I figure that it is getting to the point where I am going to have to get rid of this car because it is going to start to break down on me more frequently in the future. That is how it works once a car has a certain number of miles on it of course. You get to the point where you have to get an online cash advance service to lend you a thousand bucks to get it fixed after the transmission goes out on you. Of course there is a limit to how much a car can do mechanically. Continue reading

Best Electricity Company in Texas


I need to get electricity hooked up in this house I just bought. It is a house about 50 miles from where I live, but it was selling for such a great price, that I just had to buy it. I am going to try to flip it, or fix it up and then sell it. It seems like a good idea, and I think I will be able to get a good price for it. Before I can start getting things done, I need to look at a Texas Energy company to use to get power turned on in the house. I am not going to be able to restore it very easily, if I do not have the power turned on.

Obviously, I am going to need to have electricity, in order to be able to run power tools, and I will need power tools, to fix the house up. Continue reading

We Picked from the Best Luxury Apartments in Lexington KY


We did not want to invest in a house at this point in our life together as husband and wife. However, we did look for luxury apartments in Lexington KY to lease. We really liked what we saw. As soon as we walked into the apartment that was shown to us, we were really liking the vaulted ceilings. It had a loft feel to it that is part industrial and part home. If you have ever longed for a loft place, you know what I mean.

Loft spaces are huge with open floor designs and high ceilings. These luxury apartments in Lexington KY remind me of the lofts I have seen in some major cities. Continue reading

Dong All We Can to Save Money on Our Electric Bill


Okay, so we added to the insulation in the attic. Then we sealed around all the doors and windows. We actually replaced the front door since it was drafty when it was cool, so you know the air conditioning was working harder in the summer because of that front door. We turn off any light not in use, and we do not leave chargers plugged in. Still, our electricity bill was too high. That was when I went to to find an electricity supplier that offered a lower rate than what we were paying.

After doing everything we could to save on our electricity usage, the only other option was to get it supplied to our home at a lower rate per kilowatt hour. I almost forgot, we changed all of the bulbs to compact fluorescent and LED bulbs too. Even our Christmas light displays inside and out are low energy using LED lights. Sure, all of that combined took a big chunk out of the monthly electric bill. However, we knew we could save more by finding a lower rate for residential electricity.

I even looked up other things we could do to save electricity. Continue reading

The Kids Want Game Stop Gifts

My kids absolutely love Game Stop, and I can't really blame them. They are able to get some great deals there, plus they are able to sell some of their older games or consoles that they have lost interest in. When they give me their Christmas lists each year, there is always a very healthy section for Game Stop gear. They really don't ask for a lot, so I try to get them what they want. That is going to be a lot easier thanks to doing a search for Black Friday online deals 2015.

My friend is the one who told me about a site that has a lot of Black Friday deals on it. I was pretty excited as soon as I found the one she was talking about because Game Stop is one of the more popular stores that has a lot of great Black Friday deals on it. I always shop on Black Friday because I am able to get the kids more of the things that are on their lists because of the savings. When I found the site, I was able to sign myself up for email notifications.

That meant that I was able to put my email address in, and as soon as a store puts up their Black Friday ad, I am going to get a notice in my email about it. That is not the only thing that got me excited about this site though. They also have coupons too! I was already looking forward to some sale items, but knowing I can save even more because of the coupons on this site is enough to make anyone giddy with excitement. I have a feeling I am going to be able to get the kids everything on their Game Stop Christmas list this year!

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I Found the Best Breast Pump

When my second son was born, I was much better prepared all the way around. The one thing I was looking forward to the most was the new breast pump that I had purchased from Medela. I was really worried about this aspect since I don't have the luxury of staying home with my boys. With my first son, I had used a name brand pump, but it was extremely disappointing in so many ways. A good friend told me to look here at the Medela site, and that is where I found the pump that I wish I had the first time around.

The main problem with the first pump was it did not store the milk in a way that it was good for very long. I ended up getting a second pump but didn't have any better luck with it. When she told me that I would definitely notice a change with this breast pump, I was so happy to find out she was right. I was amazed because it does everything that every single breast pump should do. It is so quiet too, which was another big surprise for me.

It also worked to where I was able to pump the milk much faster than either of the other pumps I had tried before. When my son was able to move on from milk, I was actually surprised that the breast pump was still in such great condition, considering I had to buy two to last the same amount of time for my first son. The customer service they provide is second to none as well. I can see why my friend suggested this pump, and I have suggested it to a few friends of mine as well. When you find the best, especially with a breast pump, it is definitely news to share with others.

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Prices for Cyber Monday Laptop Sales

I need to get a new laptop because my laptop has been having some serious issues recently and it is really starting to worry me. It is overheating and crashing on me, and sometimes it will not turn back on for over an hour. I am worried that one of these times it will not turn back on at all and I will lose all of my data and stuff. That would be pretty awful, and I am going to try to look for Cyber Monday laptops so that I can start planning what I want to get for my next laptop.

It is pretty important that I take advantage of Cyber Monday sales to get a new laptop, because I want to get a nice laptop, but at the same time, I do not really want to spend that much money on one. It is a bit of a conundrum, but one that I hope to be able to wade through. I am not sure what type of laptop I want to get. I definitely do not want to get the same type that I have right now.

It is a bit underwhelming from a performance perspective, and plus it has this issue with overheating. I have no idea why it has been overheating, but it is very frustrating to me and I have already lost quite a few file saves because of the issue. I am just glad that it has kept working so far. I used some compressed air to try to clean out the fan and such. I don't know if it helped though and it is kind of hard to tell. It has overheated once since I did that, but it has not been a long time since I did it. I just need a new laptop really.

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Rehab Centers for Crystal Meth Addiction

I don't know how it happened, and I can't really imagine how it could happen. But I am ashamed to admit that my brother is suffering from a crystal meth addiction. It is probably one of the hardest drugs I can think of, and in my opinion, it is worse than crack. I thought he was smarter than this and to make things worse, it is my youngest brother that has this problem. I am going to check him into crystal meth rehab and I told him that he could come and live with me for awhile after he was completely clean. So hopefully that will motivate him a bit. I really don't know what the appeal to this drug is, but I guess a large part of the appeal just lies in the fact that it is a super addictive drug.

I am pretty sure that I tried it by accident one time, a long time ago. It was at a concert, and I did not bring any marijuana with me. Back at the time, I used to smoke a lot, and I have long kicked that habit. But back when this concert happened, I was still in my teenage years. Anyway, I asked some random guy to pass me the joint he was smoking. I took a hit, and immediately noticed that something was up with it.

It was not normal at all, and to the best I can tell, crystal meth had been laced in with the cannabis inside the joint. I didn't sleep that night, and I felt like I was having heart palpitations. It was thoroughly unpleasant and I was really confused why someone would choose to do something like that. I just really hope and pray for my brother, and I hope he will be able to get better.

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Having More with Less Money by Using Free Printable Coupons for Groceries

I watched a show about those people who use coupons at a store to the most extreme measure that they can. What I saw was that they buy a lot of stuff we would not even consider buying. We use coupons a little more wisely. We clip the ones for products we use all of the time, and we clip a few for items we would like to try but don't want to pay full retail for. We get them from the newspaper, weekly store ads that come in the mail and we use free printable coupons for groceries that we get online.

We go shopping for groceries about once a week. My wife and I make a list and gather up coupons and sales ads. One local store will match the prices of competitors. We do most of our shopping there rather than driving around. Then we use the coupons at the end of the order. The total before the coupons makes me nervous practically every single time. Then it is cut by at least a third, more often in half, most of the time. The total in savings for buying items when they are on sale and using coupons equals our car payment every month at least. If we did not use the coupons and shop diligently, we would have to earn more money to make up the difference.

I remember a guy muttering to the person with him behind us in line once. He was complaining about people wasting time using coupons. I wanted so bad to say something to him, but I held my peace. He should consider himself privileged to be able to just throw money away. We work hard for every penny we earn. If there is a way to not have to spend any of it wastefully, we will certainly take advantage of those ways. It helps us to do more with less money and have more without spending more.

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Better Deals and Prices for Internet Connection

I want to get cheap internet because I am paying too much for my internet right now and I have been struggling with my bills lately. I do not make as much money as I used to make, because I working less hours now. I am pretty sure that my boss is trying to get me to quit, but I don't know what else I would do, or where else I would turn for a job. It is not like there are just tons of jobs out there to be had. But rather, times are pretty tough, and so I am going to stick with this job for the time being, and then hope and pray that things will get better.

But for the mean time, I need to make arrangements to make sure that I do not run out of money trying to pay my bills each month. To that end, I have been looking into ways to reduce all of my utilities. I am going to cancel my television subscription, and try to move to a internet connection that costs lest per month than the one I am currently on. I am currently paying like 60 bucks a month for internet, and I would like to get it down to about 20 to 25 dollars. That would be ideal for me, and I don't think I could get a connection for less than that, which would actually be worth having. Going lower than that you're probably looking at some sort of dial-up connection from the stone ages, or well, at least from the nineties. I do not miss the days when I had to listen to annoying modem noises for a minute or 3 before I was able to get on the internet, it is kind of crazy how times have changed.

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Finding Cheap Sites for Hosting

I want to get a coupon for hosting, and when I am talkin gabout hosting, I mean hosting a website. I have an idea for a good website, that could eventually get me a lot of money. But it is going to be in some initial stages for some time. I am not sure how long it will take for me to develop it into my full concept. I am looking into site5 coupon to try to reduce the costs for me to have the site hosted.

I have finished reviewing some of the modern approaches to website design and they are quite a bit different from what I had to work with the last time I built website. When I was in high school, I actually had to teach my entire class how to do HTML, because the teacher for the class did not understand how it worked. It was a pretty messed up experience, but I guess that just happens sometimes, and I do not really know why schools don't make sure to put competent teachers in place.

I am going to hope that we will be able to get up a site and have it running within the next week or two. I am not sure how much free time I will have to put the website together. I know that I will have this weekend to work on it, but beyond that, I am not really sure, and that is why I am kind of concerned that it could take me longer than I want it to. I guess it wil lget done when I can get it done, and that is just how it will work out. I am going to see what type of coupon deals I can get for the hosting of it.

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Doing Some Work for a Travel Agency

Doing some work for a travel agency, but it is not as though I have a full time job or anything. Instead I am going to be working for them until the end of this convention, where they have a big booth and they are trying to sell their services to other people in the travel industries. I had to read more about it to be any good at the task they gave me. In essence they want me to look really sharp and be personable. That is the whole reason that they hired me. I am working with two girls, who are not quite swimsuit model hot, but they are not very far from it. They work for these people too, but their job is to talk to clients. If you go to these places you will see that they use pretty girls to get guys in the booth area.

It is a simple bait and switch deal for the most part. You go up to talk to these beautiful girls who smile at you and invite you to come over. They are not much use after that for the most part, because they are just models who get paid to look good and do not really understand what they are trying to sell. The girls they have here are not models, but they are good looking enough. However they know this stuff forwards and backwards, so if they get a client there they can talk to them about this stuff in perfect detail. They can close the deal. I am supposed to do the same thing, but it is not as though all of the people here are men. A lot of travel agents are obviously women. I am not supposed to be afraid to flirt just a little it seems.

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